Posted by
Logical Party on Wednesday, April 16, 2008 9:00:00 AM
MALE LIBERATION BY DEFAULT
J. Shawn Durham touched on one of the reasons both sexes remain single for longer periods of time – women are no longer beholden to men for economic reasons. The new sex classism points out women are more particular about a man’s job and income, where as Jerry Seinfeld reminded us men wouldn’t care if a woman was a cashier, just as long as we’re attracted.
Thankfully the days are gone when a women was beholden to a man, and in serious circumstances had to endure physical violence because she had no financial alternatives, and attitudes were against divorce. The man was King of his Castle and brought home the bacon – the only thing that mattered; home care and child rearing menial tasks. This belief is tantamount to a rigged election or fixed game.
Within this feminine revolution the benefits to men are overlooked; basically, our liberation. To dreg up a misogynist cliché – we get the milk for free! No longer need we worry about providing for the opposite sex, being hooked by their allure and having to pay for a family, house and children and work like a robot in perpetuity.
We have our freedom. Yes we had to learn to shop, cook and clean for ourselves, but that made us more self reliant and more attractive. Our shackles of dependency are broken by default!
Financially successful women come along with their own demands and their own baggage. Once we are on the wheel there’s no way off unless the relationship ends – how far are you in your career, how much money do you make and how can you make more, the car you drive, where you live, do you have the requisite Armani and a Rolex, where do we dine on the weekends, and can you compete with AMEX for the best seats in the house? The gifts should be “off the hook” just as the man should be, and if not on the latter, there’s a pill for that. How much different is this kind of man from R2D2? I am reminded of that John Lennon song; “no longer riding on the merry go round, I just to let it go.”
If in such mismatched relationships, they will end once the parties can no longer tolerate each other’s circumstances; the woman can’t accept someone not up to snuff financially, and once the physical euphoria evaporates, the man realizes he is left with aggravation. In the matter of the latter the answer is simple – beauty is in all classes, so seek out the cashier; she’ll be more grateful, less of a headache.
The financially successful women approaching forty and still not in a committed relationship will hopefully learn to read the teas leaves; they are too demanding. If they feel, which they should, that they want it all, they are being counterproductive to that end. Many women have realized that they will have to give a little to get in return, which is why much of this controversy is a myth. Some have learned the hard way and of course there are those who have succeeded in their quest, with their men bearing the burden.
There is of course a novel approach. Men and women become involved based on chemistry and commonality; two people who feel that want to share lives together that complement one another. I believe these are called healthy relationships built on substantial values.
David DiBello